Promiscuity is a “promised skewed”.
Five years into my Christian walk, delving deeper into the Word of God, I felt the Lord speak this into my spirit one day in prayer. He was bringing me into a deeper revelation of Christ, but also the misconception we, humans, are in complete control over our lives.
We all have been tempted one way or another. If you have the knowledge or have grown up in the church, the ways of the Lord should have been instilled from a young age, sadly many are leaving in record numbers. The world is enticing, lust is tantalizing and pleasure is luring. Our finite minds, our narcissistic brains are truly deceived in believing we can “handle” all things. Just a little bite we may say, just a little flirt, just a quick hit and never once do we imagine that “little” turning into a full blown raging temptation and stronghold.
Marriages are failing. I have heard many say the Bible is antiqued, old, for a culture that no longer exists, and the church has to “evolve”. Sorrowfully, the church is evolving by adapting to the ever changing philosophies of the world. My sister in Christ, the Bible is as relevant today as it was thousands of years ago and do you know why? Human nature has not changed. We are still tempted, we still fall, and we still seek the desires which please our own sinful nature because “that is what makes us feel good”. Well, just because it makes you “feel good” does not mean it is right.
Christians are to be foreigners in this world, living a godly life, but not adapting to the world’s disasters way. With technology at our fingertips, adultery, and sexual sin can be easily accessible to any age with the ability to search the web. If our bodies respond to the sight of a man scantily clothed, if our minds lust and continue with “vain imaginations” desiring fifty shades of male satisfaction and if we long for movies portraying ridiculous damsels in distress, saved by knowledgeable hands to please, we are falling into the enemy’s lair.
Jesus declares the eyes are the lamp of the body, if what we put into our body is dark, then how dark it truly is (Matthew 6:22-23). If we open those temptations, that crack in the door can swing wide open for “game on”. My children have never watched movies, videos or have been encouraged to watch television with half dressed people. Tommy and I choose not to awaken desires a young mind can not handle or know what to do with the exposure. As adults, we hardly should be the “good Samaritan” encouraging young children to “explore” when our own lives spiral out of control.
At a young age, I was exposed to pornography, magazines, movies, television and pictures regarding sexual images. My family, of course, did not encourage this behavior, but there was something in my flesh that wanted to see. I did not realize the false impressions those images would lead to. Looking at women, thinking I did not measure up to their beauty, I had a low self esteem. Today, I know I am a child of the Most High, formed and molded into the image he decided. Looking at those images, I had a skewed interpretation of what a marriage, sex, and intimacy truly was. I had no idea the purity, innocence and love that God had in mind for marriage ever existed. It would take the Lord eight years to teach me his love, how I am to love and the difference the Christian faith is to have on the world.
The adulterous woman mentioned in the Gospel of John was caught in infidelity, ironically, the man was not mentioned. Using this woman, her infidelity as a ploy, the “religious” sector apparently had knowledge of this rapport, but chose to look the other way. This scheming did not deceive Jesus. “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law, Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” (John 8:4-5) Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. When they kept on questioning him, He straightened up and said to them, “If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.” (John 8:6-8)
The forgiveness of God is precious. His grace, His mercy, and His love for those who are His children is abounding, although we are to never take it for granted. If sexual sin is a temptation for you, if there is a man who your heart lusts after, whether at work, in church, a friend or a television personality, you are commanded to master it! God told Cain, “Why are you so angry, why are you so downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it.” (Genesis 4:6-7) God told Cain this before he sinned. We read His Word today, the Bible, with its intuitive promises for our habitual sin; He has given us the ability to “master” it before the sin desires to have us.
When you dangle the carrot, when your flesh opens the door with just one pornographic movie, when your shirt is just a little too low for enticing or when you purposing find yourself strategically planning to tempt another Christian man to fall, the crouching becomes entangling, and the entangling becomes a reality. My honesty in prayer with the Lord has strengthened me for the encroachment of sin. My flesh may respond to a sexual sin, a look from the opposite sex or feeling of “I still got it” from a flirtatious remark, but in the end, that small spark will ignite devastation to your marriage, your family and maybe your soul.
I want to encourage you my sister in Christ, the temptations are real. I encourage you to fight for your marriage, turn OFF the television, spend time together, and reconnect. If you find yourself thinking of another man, then pray and ask the Lord for answers. Why are you thinking of him? What does that man offer you husband does not? Is it just physical or does the tempter fill a void emotionally your spouse does not? Once you have your answer, begin armoring yourself with the Lord’s protective covering, maybe fast a meal a day until you have victory over your thoughts and mind and prayerfully ask God for a godly prayer warrior, who will confidently pray for you.
Sweet sister, the Word of God is alive, full of hope, power and direction. You can stop these thoughts and temptations, renew your mind in Christ Jesus, and transform into the Christian woman Christ knows you can be. God is no respecter of persons and offers the same promises to you as I have. Believe and stand in the Blood of the Lamb, offer your prayers with pure motive and lay your temptations at the cross!
Pray the Prayer for Adulterous Thoughts or Prayer for an Affair on our Prayer for Every Circumstance Page. You can find the full teaching under our Resource Page, One a Day; 30 Days of Prayer with the Women of the Bible, Book 1