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An affair, death, and cover up are in the heart of the Man after God’s own Heart.  He tries to conceal his sin, eliminating any and all signs that could point to him.  He refuses to acknowledge the affair, murder, and cover up to the One who sees all.  A prophet makes his way to the King.  Nathan has a message for David.

“The Lord sent Nathan to David.  When he came to him, he said,  ‘There were two men in a certain town, own rich and the other poor.  The rich man had a very large number of sheep and cattle, but the poor man had nothing except one little lamb he had bought. He raised it, and it grew up with him and his children.  It shared his food, drank from his cup and even slept in his arms.  It was like a daughter to him.

Now a traveler came to the rich man, but the rich man refrained from taking one of his sheep or cattle to prepare a meal for the traveler who had come to him.  Instead, he took the lamb that belonged to the poor man and prepared it for the one who had come to him.

David burned with anger against the man and said to Nathan,  ‘Surely as the Lord lives, the man who did this deserves to die!  He must pay for that lamb four times over, because he did such a thing and had no pity.’

Then Nathan said to David,  ‘YOU are the man!!  This is what the Lord, the God of Israel, says,  “I anointed you king of Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul.  I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms.  I gave you the house of Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more.  Why did you despise the word of the Lord by doing what is evil in His eyes?  You struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword and took his wife to be your own.  You killed him with the sword of the Ammonites. Now, therefore, the sword will never depart from your house,  because you despised Me and took the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your own.”

Then David said to Nathan,  ‘I have sinned against the Lord.’

Nathan replied, ‘The Lord has taken away your sin.  You are not going to die.  But because by doing this you have made the enemies of the Lord show utter contempt, the son born to you will die.’”  (2 Samuel 12:1-14)

It takes two to tango.  I have heard that “saying” before and it’s true.  Bathsheba was a willing participant to an affair.  Maybe thinking her husband, Uriah, one of David’s mighty men and friend (2 Samuel 23:39),  would never be the wiser while in battle.  The problem arose when a child is conceived.  Now what are we going to do? David sends word to bring Uriah home.  Surely this mighty man would need the comfort of his wife after battle scars plagued him.  Not so.

Uriah was a soldier, a devoted comrade to his fellow warriors.  He did not sleep with his wife, but slept outside even though David attempted to get him drunk and dull his senses.  Unable to cloud Uriah’s strong convictions for his “brothers in battle”,  David sends him to the front of the line where Uriah is ultimately killed (2 Samuel 11:6-26).

When Uriah was killed,  David received word and was firm is his own convictions.  He sent a message to the commander Joab who was extremely disheveled with his friend, Uriah’s, untimely death.  “Don’t let this upset you; the sword devours one as well as another.  Press the attack against the city and destroy.”  These are kind words from a man whom had just committed murder.

The aftermath and cover up from unbridled passion is deadly. Attempting to “pretend” nothing has happened, struggling to end all contact so no one will know, killing all “evidence” can be exhausting,  but I promise, “There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known.” (Matthew 10:26)  Jesus is speaking to what He has asked you to do in the dark.  In prayer, if God has asked you to “come clean” and you refuse as David,  He will make everything known.

Bathsheba mourned for her husband who died and lost the baby she conceived in the affair.  David used Bathsheba and thought nothing of the man Uriah fighting for Israel, God, and for him.  He thought nothing of the gallant man who would never give himself pleasures while his fellow comrades were in battle.  Uriah was a devoted friend to David and his warriors.  Guilt consumes David and Bathsheba has she announces her pregnancy, attempt to deceive Uriah, but his honor befuddles them.  And because of his integrity, David has him killed, moved to the front of the battle.

David repents for all to see in Psalm 51.  He is truly sorry for his actions. Bathsheba is described in Nathan’s parable as a  “young ewe lamb”,  loved by a family, and devastated when it was taken away.  I am assuming David’s influence persuaded her, but her guilt persuaded him to bring her husband home to “rectify” the situation.  He was unprepared for a righteous man, such as David should have been.

I wish Bathsheba had been as Abigail.  Abigail, married to an ungodly man, prevented an attack on her household by stopping David and four hundred strong who were willing to kill all the men in Abigail’s home.  She prepared a “feast” for David, ran out to meet him and his brigade, and pacified David’s wrath with a plea and a blessing from God.  God used her to remind David it is He who brings justice from our adversaries.

If Bathsheba a spoken a prayer and a blessing over David, honoring her marriage as a godly wife, and reminding David of the penalties of illicit affairs,  he may have conceded and appreciated her wise words.  Sorrowfully, two souls were taken from this lustful embrace. An honorable, devoted man who was a mighty warrior, friend, and husband and a little innocent baby who was conceived in sin.  Let us pray and lay our marriages, our sinful behaviors at the cross and plead with the Most High to forgive our selfish hearts.


Let us pray out loud and CONFESS the Word of the Living God;  a prayer for forgiveness, an affair

Adonai, Lord

Bend your ear and hear my cry, answer me Lord for my soul thirsts for you all day long. My flesh longs for You in a dry and weary land where there is no water (Psalm 63:1). Forgive me for I have chased after people, things, position and mammon, falling far away from Your spirit. Purge me with the hyssop Father, and I shall be clean. Wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow. Make me hear joy and gladness that the bones You have broken may rejoice. Hide Your face from my sins, and blot out all my iniquities (Psalm 51:7-9). Gently restore me, Lord, back to Your heart, mind, body, spirit and soul for my flesh is weak, but my spirit is willing (Matthew 26:41).

Refresh me, Yeshua, prepare my heart for service; ready me to be obedient to Your call. For I am weak, hearing and feeling all the other voices vying for my attention; my heart aches for I am drawn to sin like a child who knows no better. I know it is written, “Christ made us alive, even though I was dead in my transgressions and sins, in which I once walked according to the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who now works in the sons of disobedience.” (Ephesians 2:1-2)

You are the reason I move and breathe. You know everything about me, for there is nothing hidden in me because I am fearfully and wonderfully made by You (Psalm 139). I desire to be all You have called and created me to be. Lead me back to the Rock that is higher than I. I am pouring myself out to You, fill me with Your Holy Spirit. You are the Rock, fortress, and Redeemer (Job 25). Deliver me from a rebellious, wandering and unfaithful spirit. Bind and weave me, Lord, back to You.

Carry me in Your arms back to Your flock, for You are the Great Shepherd (John 14). Please forgive me and redeem me from the clutch of the enemy. Put Your clean, righteous, and Holy white robe on me, removing all filth, guilt, shame, and condemnation I feel from my sins. You are my reward and prize. There is no other for me. In the name of Jesus of Nazareth I pray, amen

A prayer written by Cathie Lichtenberger


  1. catherine lichtenberger

    I know that through my horrible selfishness and self centeredness I killed part of my marriage and love my husband once had for me. I have asked for forgiveness from God and him. I can’t go back and change or undue the past. Just like David couldn’t either and he paid a hefty price for his sins. There are repercussions to our choices and decisions. Choose wisely especially when it comes to your marriage. Listen to God and be obedient even if you don’t agree with what God tells you. You will either reap the blessings or bare the consequences. If I could go back I would have been the wife God wanted me to me not the one I wanted to be.

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