Esau’s Hittite Wives

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A man is married to worldly women. A son has fallen prey to desire, lust, and unbelievers. His mother grieves and is disgusted with the life styles of the women and their ways. “Then Rebekah said to Isaac, ‘I’m disgusted with living because of these Hittite women. If Jacob takes a wife from among the women of this land, from Hittite women like these, my life will not be worth living.’” (Genesis 27:46)

The book of Proverbs pens insightful Scripture regarding the heart of a worldly wife,

  • “A foolish son is his father’s ruin, and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping.” (Proverbs 19:13)
  • “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.” (Proverbs 21:9, 25:24)
  • “A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day, restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.” (Proverbs 27:15-16)
  • “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.” (Proverbs 12:4)
  • “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” (Proverbs 14:1)

Genesis 26:34-35 reads, “When Esau was forty years old, he married Judith, daughter of Beeri the Hittite, and also Basemath, daughter of Elon the Hittite. They were a source of grief to Isaac and Rebekah.” God was speaking plainly in regards to marrying an unbeliever, “Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, for they will turn your sons away from following Me to serve other gods, and the Lord’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you.” (Deuteronomy 7:3-4)

In the New Testament, the Apostle Paul addresses this very issue to Christians as well, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? Is there harmony between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said, ‘I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.’” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16)

Having been saved by the hand of Christ from a dark depression, I know Christ is real.

After my daughter was born, I suffered through a post partum depression, but had no idea what was wrong with me. I was not attending church; I was not following the Christian life-style, or acting as if I was apart of Christ at all. I was raised in the church and had accepted Christ as Savior when I was twelve, but walked away after my parent’s divorce. If someone had asked me if Christ was real or the only way, I would have said yes, but watching daily, you would never have guessed I believed that statement.

Six months into this depression, I had a vision of Christ. I knew exactly who it was when during a habitual cry in the night, my eyes saw Christ. His exact words to me were, “There is a spiritual warfare between good and evil.” I have never forgotten what He said and I never will. That night, something dark was lifted off of me. I knew in that moment, He is real, He loves me, and no other religion cared enough about me to lift this depression off as Christ.

I have spent the last ten years, a decade changing, studying, reading, praying, worshiping, and loving Christ. I know He is real for when I searched the “world” for answers regarding my depression: psychologist, psychics, meditation, other religions, and positive “light” thoughts, no one took this blackness off of me. Only Christ’s hand could restore what was so broken in me.

I know this is why I am adamant about my children marrying into other religions.

I tried them. I sought out books detailing meditation, books to think “positive thoughts”, books revealing angels and psychics to tell me where this darkness and sadness came from. I looked, but was never able to find an answer. It was the love of Christ for me. A love so powerful and deep, a love so amazing and intimate, and a love so gentle, His presence took my breath away. He is real. He is alive. He is waiting for you.

I pray over my children. I pray over their character, their relationship with Christ, their spouses, their own families, their purpose for which created, and their mission as Christians. I pray they are unashamed before Christ; I pray the children are never lured by worldly women and men who would turn their hearts away from the Living God.

We are to be in the world, but not of the world. We are to be different, a light in darkness, love in loveless-ness, Truth in a world where there is no absolute Truth, holy in an unholy society, and Christ-like in a selfish world. If this is true and we are to conduct our-selves as such, then what does Christ have in common with unbelievers? Why would you give your most intimate portions away to someone who does not believe as you? Why would you yoke yourself to a person who could possible change your heart? Why would you bring division into a relationship meant to be a covenant with God?

For the wife who has become a new believer, while her husband has not, listen to what the Apostle Paul told the church in Corinth, “And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:13-14) If Christ has changed your heart first in your marriage, then I encourage you to begin a prayer life for your husband. Make time everyday to pray for him and maybe fast a meal for him. God will give you the strength to believe, hope, pray, worship, discernment, and encouragement from other Christian women who are in the same situation as you. Never give up on your marriage, or what Christ can do through you. Let us lay our marriages, our hopes in Christ, and our desire to live this Christian life at the Cross.

Let us pray out loud and CONFESS the Word of the Living God;  a prayer for wives and marriage

Abba Father,

I come to You as Your daughter; bend Your ear, and listen to my prayer. May it glorify Jesus Christ, enhance Your Kingdom and strengthen my marriage. I know You have a plan for our marriage. I know it is to prosper and not fail; to grow and not wither, to strengthen and not weaken. I pray to be this godly Christian wife You’ve called me to be. I have been given the gift of being a helper to my husband (Genesis 2:18). I thank You for this precious calling on my life; help me to cherish our marriage with great respect, never to take it for granted and strengthen our bond year after year.

Father, I want to be a godly woman who desires the things of You (2 Timothy 2:22). I pray You keep my eyes on things above and not below, Christ seated at the right hand of the Father (Colossians 3:2). I pray to put off my old self and ways, asking You to help mold and shape me to fit this season of my life, renewing my mind daily (Romans 12:1-2). Whether I was taught the ways of the Lord or have just come to the faith as a new believer, I pray I learn to be a respectful, helpful, encouraging, loving wife, taking me into a deeper revelation of my purpose (Ephesians 5:33). I understand the spiritual warfare against Christian marriages, may I be a wife who continually prepares her husband for battle with the armor of the Lord (Ephesians 6:12).

Lord, fill my life with godly women, elders to glean from, groups to pray with and other women who will encourage and lift us up in prayer (Philippians 3:16-17). When the tests and trials of marriage come, I pray to lay them at the foot of your cross, pleading your precious blood of our marriage. May You guard my mouth lest I sin against You (Psalm 19:14); and when the time comes to bring a sensitive issue to light with _________________ (husband) may I pray about it at least three days (Esther 4:16), seek the advise and counsel of seasoned elders and have Your peace of knowing I am being respectful, loving, gentle and filled with the fruit of the spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).

I pray to read Your Word daily (Psalm 1:1-3). May I be a woman with a deep understand of the things of God, the plan for my life, adaptable to all situation with my husband, helping him where needed and encouraging him during his walk (Ephesians 3:12-14). If I have yoked myself to a non believer or God, You have changed my life first before _______________ (husband) then I pray for the strength to stay committed, loving him and trusting You to change him in your perfect will and timing (1 Corinthians 7:13-14). I pray my behavior, in which is being molded into Your image, glorify You, find favor in Your eyes, and soften my husband’s heart to see Your goodness (1 Peter 3). I pray that no matter how long, the prayer life I commit to will never waiver, increase with my perseverance, determination to run this race, to not quit on ________________(husband) (2 Peter 1:5-8) and to know that all things work together for good for those who love God and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28).

I pray our marriage never grow boring, dull or conform to the ways of this world (Hebrews 13:4-5). I pray ___________ (husband) and I are sensitive to each other’s needs, never withholding ourselves from one another sexually, never manipulating each other into undesirable tasks, but challenging ourselves to come up higher, giving God an open door to all areas of our marriage (1 Corinthians 7:5). I pray to never gossip, slander, and demean my husband; not to covet or desire another woman’s husband. May I be a woman who can be self controlled in her mind and body, turning off the lure of pornography, lustfulness, or longing for another man instead of my (husband) ______________(1 Corinthians 6:12-20). I know You have brought Christian’s to a high standard when Christ said, “I tell you that anyone who looks at another woman (man) lustfully has already committed adultery with her (him) in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28) I pray to stay committed to the Lord in my inner most being, striving to never break Your commandments of adulterous thoughts, committed to this man and the marriage you have planned for me (Exodus 20:14).

Father I thank You and give You all praise. Thank You I am redeemed under the Blood of the Lamb and we can have a marriage that is godly, pure and holy. In the name of Jesus of Nazareth I pray, amen


  1. catherine lichtenberger

    I also pray the same things for my sons. Girls can be very aggressive and influential on a boy and yet boys can be very pressuring and demanding on a girl. I pray that not only would my sons be the men God has called them to be but marry the women God has chosen for them.

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