The Bride of Cana

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 Ignorance is bliss. I have heard many quote that saying in my lifetime. There is some truth that rings forth from these three simple words. If we are ignorant about our surroundings whether people, circumstances, needs, or another’s problems, how blissful it is NOT to worry, fret or feel anxiety about them.

The bride of Cana may have lived in such bliss. Did she know there was a lack in wine? Did she wonder how the “best” was saved for last? Was she so caught up in her surroundings, she was oblivious to the problem engulfing her celebration?

“On the third day a wedding took place at Cana in Galilee. Jesus’ mother was there, and Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. When the wine was gone, Jesus’ mother said to Him, ‘They have no more wine.’

‘Dear woman, why do you involve me? My time has not yet come.’

His mother said to the servants, ‘Do whatever He tells you.’

Nearby stood six stone water jars, the kind used by the Jews for ceremonial washing, each holding from twenty to thirty gallons.’

Jesus said to the servants, ‘Fill the jars with water’; so they filled them to the brim.

Then He told them, ‘Now draw some out and take it to the master of the banquet.’

They did so, and the master of the banquet tasted the water that had been turned into wine. He did not realize where it had come from though the servants who had drawn the water knew. Then he called the bridegroom aside and said, ‘Everyone brings out the choice wine first and then the cheaper wine after the guests have had to much to drink; but you have saved the best till now.’” (John 2:1-11)

Many in our society are oblivious. Oblivious to those around them, the mess they leave behind, and the pieces for which require others to pick up after they leave.  I have a friend whose husband left her for another woman. He moved to a different state and sees his sons twice a year. Random phone conversations can be more heartache than good. I am sure this man never once thought how those two boys must feel everyday when they see other fathers with their sons. The swallowing of the world encourages people to “get mine” leaving a wake of sadness, broken hearts and pain behind them. These boys have not a father to wake up to. They have not had a father to spend holidays with, nor celebrate one on Father’s Day. My heart has broken for them for many years, and I know there are more of these little broken hearts scattered across the world. Oblivion.

I know of a woman who has several children. She uses people to watch her children or inconveniences others when she “can not” come to get them when suppose too. Another friend of mine babysits. A determined time is set for drop off and pick up. Drop off for the child watched is always a few minutes early for my friend, but pick up seems to always run LATE! Not just a few minutes, but I mean an hour or so. The mother does not care if she is late and has not paid for the extra hour of service. Oblivion or selfishness?

The use of cell phones and social media has just about broken the back of society’s etiquette. What was considered rude years ago is considered norm today. I hate to see someone on the phone when checking out of a store; completely rude to the cashier and then annoyed if they have to wait for change. Oblivion to one’s own rude behavior?  Driving in south Florida is taking a risk everyday. There are NO rules to the road, for everyone seems to make theirs up as they go. From people cutting you off, then glaring at you, having to slam on your brakes to avoid a crash, to other’s running red lights (while yours is green) so they do not have to sit and wait is norm here. Oblivion to rules we are “required” to follow?

Ignorance in worldly issues is beyond amazing. I have seen shows where young millennials are asked very simple questions in regards to national news. Most have no idea what you are talking about? How is scary is that, for these are the new up and coming generations! Definitely oblivion for those who just do not care.

What about promises made that have been un-kept or broken. I know of several who plan play-dates, dinners, and afternoon outings, only to not show up at the planned event. A text may come an hour later, saying “Sorry, we couldn’t’ make it.” Yes I know you couldn’t. I was here waiting for you. Oblivion to those around you or promises you make?

My husband is a realtor. Nothing aggravates him more than when a homeowner, who desires property to be sold, opens their house to prospective buyers, only to have these buyers come thirty minutes to an hour later. There seems to be no concept of another’s time or anyone else’s priorities, but their own. Oblivion or complete disregard for others?

The Bible has much to say in regards to the last days we are in, “But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves (we call pictures of ourselves, selfies!), lovers of money (explanatory!), boastful, proud, and abusive (social media is an example of this), disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God – having a form of godliness but denying its power.” (2 Timothy 3:1-5)

Philippians 2:3-4 reads, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” “An unfriendly man pursues selfish ends; he defies all sound judgment.” (Proverbs 18:1) “Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter.” (Isaiah 5:20) “But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow evil, there will be wrath and anger.” (Romans 2:8) “No body should seek his own good, but the good of others.” (1 Corinthians 10:24) “For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.” (James 3:16) “Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.” (1 John 3:18)

Jesus Christ was not like these few verses regarding self-desires and ambitions. He did not have the attitude “everyone will wait on me”, “my own schedule comes first”, or “my own feelings take priority”. His mind was completely focused on His Father in heaven. He gave His own life for God’s glory and to save people (John 3:16, John 10:11) Christ commanded, “If anyone would come after Me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save it.” (Luke 9:23)

“In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work, we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus Himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’” (Acts 20:35). “We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves. Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. For even Christ did not please himself….” (1 Corinthians 15:1-3)

Christ did not consider Himself equal with God, but made Himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made into human likeness. Found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to death (Philippians 2:6-8).

Christ made time for everyone regardless of His being God’s Son. He stopped for lepers, adulterous women, sinful women, Gentiles, the sick and possessed, the invalids that needed healing, and those of us who desired to have Him over to our home. Remember Zacchaeus? Christ was walking and a small man climbed a tree just to see Him. Christ looked up in the tree and called him by name, “Zacchaeus, come down immediately. I must stay at your house today.” (Luke 19:1-5) Christ made time for anyone who searched for Him. His patience and love for man is extra-ordinary!

I pray this touches you today.  I try everyday to be aware of my surrounds and who is near me.  Each day my children and I pray in our car.  We ask the Lord whom we can be a blessing to, who will He put in our path today?  I want them to remember that prayer and pray it themselves.  I do not want to have children who live in their own little world of electronics, selfies, social media, tweets, and desires.  I want them to adapt easily to all surrounds, whether comfortable or uncomfortable.  I want them to be able to not use the phone while driving, checking out of a store, talking in a quiet waiting room so everyone can hear, or simply just being conscious of another person around them.  I desire them to clean up their mess and not leave trash around them.

I want my children to be different.  I want them to stick to their commitments, arrive early for pick up or drop off, pay the waitress 15-20% tip whether she deserves it or not; everyone has a bad day.  I pray they have the discernment to not gossip, spread rumors, or talk too quickly before truth is revealed.  I pray they are aware of another’s time and set their priorities before the day is started.  I pray they are self controlled and determined to live as Christ.  Let’s lay our ways at the cross and if this is an area where you struggle, I pray God speak mightily and boldly to your spirit.

 Let us pray out loud and CONFESS the Word of the Living God;  a prayer for praying attention to the world around us


I do not want to live in a world where I am only concerned with me.  I do not want to miss out on anything, anyone, or an opportunity to spread the Gospel because I am so focused on me.  Help me focus on the purpose and plan You have for my life.

If I am addicted, programmed, and lured to social media, Father, heal my mind.  I desire to spent time in Your Word, study Scripture, and worship the Living God. I do not want my life to be compared with another’s.  I do not want to feel when I am not “like” enough. I rebuke any feelings of sadness, competitiveness, demeaning, or boasting on social media. If this has been detrimental to my spirit, then Lord, help me stay off the electronics.

I desire to live a different life. A life scheduled, structured, purposeful, joyful, and thankful each and everyday. I desire to keep my commitments, even if it means missing out on something else. I desire to teach my children by being a good example to them and to those around me. I pray to say thankful, paying attention to the cashiers, waitresses, and any service people I come in contact with. I truly desire change.

Lord, I do not want to put myself or my family’s in danger by driving while on the phone. Nothing is that important for me to pick up the phone while driving down a highway. Thank you for the Holy Spirit who can gently remind me to wait, pray, and seek Your kingdom first.

Thank you Lord electronics do not have to rule my life. Thank you I can say no, stop selfies, texting, posting, measuring myself against my “likes”, and always trying to gain the approval of others. Praise Your Lord for Your Truth. Bring me into a deeper relationship with Christ. Remind me this life is fleeting and I want to spend it with you. In the name of Jesus of Nazareth I pray, amen.


  1. catherine lichtenberger

    I too desire to serve. And teach my children to do the same. I remember one of the communion leaders asking me why I never went to any of the appreciation dinners or events of recognition. I told him because I would rather be behind the scenes in the kitchen preparing the food and serving it then being served. Now don’t get me wrong I am about the most selfish and self centered person there is but I was uncomfortable with being honored for something that was purely volunteer and something I loved doing. I know the church was being very generous to provide this meal for all of the volunteers and I did appreciate it but only went to maybe 1 or 2 then stopped all together even volunteering for communion. I need to get back to doing something for others.

  2. Arleen

    Thanks so much for your transparency and for your boldness in speaking the truth in love. I too desire to live a different life, one that honors God every moment.

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